Scripps Sunday #61

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Anna, it was such a delight seeing you play and cheer and be such an integral part of your team this weekend at your ultimate frisbee tournament in Burlington. Seeing you cheer so much during the game that I thought you might lose your voice and seeing you jump for the chance to give some affirmation and encouragement to another teammate or to someone on the other team during your spirit circle at the end were such beautiful things to witness. 

If only the world could operate by the rules and norms of ultimate frisbee, this would be such a different place for sure. You are experiencing and tasting such rich and deep community through this, and I am so grateful for the joy and connection you have found here.... 

May this be a touchpoint for you always as you build on these relationships and as you seek out new connections in other communities of which you will invest through the years and seasons. 




Genuine Connection is Ease

“The truth is — genuine connection is ease. It is peace. When you find it you will know. You will feel seen, you will feel like you are being mirrored back to yourself, like you are discovering the shadow of your own heart in another human being.

Slowly, through loving the right people, you will come to realize that the human beings who are meant for you in this world will not exhaust you, or hollow you out, or leave you feeling like you are hard to love. Slowly, you will come to realize that you do not have to romanticize the things in this life that hurt. You do not have to run towards the fire. Love does not have to feel like a fight, does not have to feel like battle, does not have to wound.

Slowly, you will learn how to lay down your arms. How to walk away from those who will only ever love you in halves. Slowly, you will learn that you cannot love someone into loving you, or being ready, if they are not. You cannot love someone into their potential. You cannot close their hands around your heart if they are not willing to hold it themselves. You have to let them go. You have to focus on the people in your life who bring you back home to yourself. You have to focus on standing up for that kind of connection, on honoring that calm, because it exists. It exists.

And I hope you learn to trust that, because when you come across it, when you ultimately experience it, it feels as if you are standing at a door you finally have the keys for. You enter it with ease. There is no fumbling through your jacket pocket trying to find the right way in. There is no desperately reaching into your bag trying to uncover the point of access. You are no longer banging your fists against the door, asking to be invited in. You walk through. Soundlessly. Softly. Relief washes over you. You take off your shoes. You hang your coat in the closet. You put on a pot of coffee. You’re home. You’re home.”

– Bianca Sparacino https://www.swiss-miss.com/2023/03/genuine-connection-is-ease.html



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